Wednesday, April 19, 2006

The Non Communication Communication Age

Warning! Major self analyzation to follow.

Something about email and text messaging puts me so at ease. I can contact the people that I know and love, let me them know exactly my point and be done. No formalities, no okay I'll call you later, just short and sweet. Of course when it comes down to using the phone with people it makes me stricken with fear!! I'm not sure why, but I have never been a big phone person. Now if somebody is not very good at email I will pick up the phone all day long. But if they are one to check their email at least once a day email is my sav-, okay well not quite that. So why is it that the mere thought of arranging a get together via the phone makes me quake in my boots? And when did this happen? I certainly have been phonaphobic in the past, but last year I was far from. In fact people thought it was strange that I would return their emails with a phone call - I just had so much to say!! Do I have less to say now? Less that I want to share? Less that I want to talk about? Do I desire to talk less in the first place? Or is that I think my life is boring, not worth talking about? No gorgeous beach, no cliffs to wonder, no downtown Santa Cruz that always has the crazy night life to talk about, no trendy shopping that just makes me super happy just to window shop, no Petroglyph to sit at and paint for hours with the Kids Cave that the kids would go in and watch a movie and come back out and paint and with people that had tears in there eyes when we told them we were moving. Maybe I am missing some of the deep relationships that were developing in Cali before I left. Some of the ones that I thought would become that way here aren't quite there yet and some of them I thought would be there someday probably aren't going to at all. It takes a LOT to develop a friendship. And this whole South Austin North Austin thing, thirty minutes apart seeming like way too much to travel - I'm not even going to go there. Although I have one sweet friend who I just realized has made the distance each time we've gotten together to come all the way up here. Well. There. I warned you. Major self analyzation. Any comments or answers although I may just be answering myself with my own questions, are welcome.

4 Comments:

beth said...

I don't know if this could be true for you or not, but I have found for myself, that although I might feel like I have a lot to say, I just don't have the energy to go through with it and say it all. just a thought.

Laura said...

Beth has a point. And when you're on the phone, sometimes it may turn into a long conversation when you don't have time or would prefer to spend your time in other ways. Or it may be (depending on how well you know the person) hard to know what to talk about or more of an effort to have a conversation.

That is too bad about the North/South Austin thing. I always lived 30 min away from my church friends growing up, so I would always drive to Omaha and no one would drive to see me. It's also a concern for me as I move to D.C. I'm hoping that it won't be too much of an effort to spend time with friends (when I make them).

pinksundrops said...

Beth, That is a good point. I do feel sometimes I would need to explain more than I'd want to about a particular situation and just don't have the energy for it.

Laura, Maybe that's what it is. I probably had more time to spend when the kids were little and even in California as the kids were entertained more.

Yeah, our church is South Austin (we're North) so their are a LOT of people that are South. Fortunently there are still some North and we've been able to connect with a few of them. It takes awhile to make friends, I've always known it, but it always surprises me.

Cecilia said...

Maybe we're all just programmed to be in different waves during certain periods in our lives. While I was comfortable in groups before, I'm more into smaller numbers now...I guess it all varies with our current situation combined with more recent experiences. Maybe now you need to feel that you are more "connected" to the particular person you are about to phone in order to make that phone call....because maybe now when you share your experiences it needs to be on a certain level.

Hope I am making some sense...

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