Sunday, April 20, 2008

Why is it they are SO different?

Friday was the day I broke down because my son's room was a disaster, and the day I received acupuncture for the first time. Coincidence? Not.

My oldest son, the sweetest, most generous, thoughtful, kind child in the world (along with his brother) has a slight organization problem. Maybe it's not an organization problem, because he can be damn well organized when he wants to be, maybe it's a how-to-keep-the-clutter-from-building-up-and-taking-over problem. See, I have the same problem. A little fairy called Flylady has taken me babysteps to being able to make "our house beautiful" in the words of Shawners in forty-five minutes, fifteen minutes in each main room and that includes vacuuming and dusting. That's been seven years in coming. Justinbustin, on the other hand, has had to deal with a Mommy during those seven years who doesn't quite know how to teach him what she's only recently learned herself. When I ask him to take care of it he melts down. I melt down.

Fortunately, my ever wonderful sister came to the rescue. Not only did she calm me down and make me go relax, she cleaned off Justinbustin's desk (yes, people, this was his DESK - imagine a very cluttered floor of a child's room. Now pile it all on one desk. That was it) with him and Shawners. She talked to them about how different her three boys are. She told them how one of them did not know how to keep his belongings upkept and his brother, who it came naturally to to be organized and uncluttered, helped teach  him how. So she asked my little Shawners if he could help teach Justinbustin what comes naturally to Shawners. My mind was blown at her perspective on the matter.

Afterwards, my sister mentioned when we get stressed our creative juices stop flowing and offered to send me to acupuncture to help me relax. With all the events I have going on lately of all three of our parents coming to visit, still having to stay on top of the kids home school, a play the kids have coming up, sports, cub scouts, my school, social time, not to mention ME, I'm just a tad stressed. Last year, her mother-in-law asked my sister to "let her go"  before they discovered acupuncture to help her arthritis pain. This year Brando's been using acupuncture for allergies and his allergies are like night and day from before. So I figured why not? I'm deathly afraid of needles, but I've been told the needles are thinnner than a hair and are actually blunt. They technically push the skin aside, versus the ones with the sharper point that tear the skin.

When I went in the lady seemed very professional and concerned. She asked me a MILLION questions, which in itself was relaxing. She showed me how they put the needle in thru a tube and tap it in only about a quarter of an inch at first. I thought I could handle that with a few breathing exercises. She ended up putting seven in me. The last one she put in my chest. I'm not sure if the crying that resulted for ten minutes was from the fact that I had SEVEN needles in me or if it really was an emotional release. Usually when I cry I save it all up and I bawl. This was like a Hollywood cry with cute sniffles and tears flowing down my cheeks. My body also shook for twenty minutes, pretty sure nerves covered that one. Afterwards I was MUCH more relaxed. I wasn't sure if it was from the acupuncture or the fact that I'd had an hour and a half alone time with someone to talk to. I'm sure it was both but the acupuncture probably helped the feeling last a little longer and took the edge off my nerves even for today. I'd definitely do it again!

8 Comments:

L said...

I so wish tidyness came naturally to me. It's hard enough to pick up after myself; how will I ever do it when I have a family?! I need to check out this Flylady stuff.

s said...

it's funny how different siblings can be. honestly, if it wasn't for the fact that my sister and i look identical i would think one of us was adopted. i can't even tell you how much she has taught me in my life, they are lucky to have each other. they will both appreciate what the other can teach them even if they don't realize it at first :) it's great that you have your sister around to help out when things get stressful!

my sister recently tried acupuncture too, and speaks highly of it as well. maybe i should try it too!!

Camels & Chocolate said...

Scott gets acupuncture, but I am still thoroughly freaked out by the prospect of multiple needles sticking out of my face! Glad you were braver than me!

~Angela~ said...

I really want to try acupuncture. I'm not all that stressed or anything. I just really like needles (is that sick and twisted?).

California Girl said...

That's great news that the acupuncture helped. Life gets so stressful/overwhelming, so sometimes you just need to step aside and do something for you.

Courtney said...

Wow accupunture sounds awesome/scary!!! But I would def give it a try. and I didn't know it could help with alergies... maybe it can help with this darn cough that I can't seem to shake!

I'm messy by nature, so I feel Justin's pain. I wish I had a neat sibling to teach me how to stay on top of stuff. Mostly, I just have Kyle, who is way more organized than me, which just makes me feel like a bad wife. Oh well.

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my life is brilliant said...

Wow! Sounds like you really needed that. I'm glad it helped you.

I've never had acupuncture before either. I don't know if it's something I'll ever get to experience. I'm definitely intrigued, though, after this post.

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